Friends over dinner

In a 1979 TV series, “The Littlest Hobo”, Terry Bush sang about making a friend at every stop he made (yes, I know, he was singing about a dog!). Not many of us are that lucky, most of us have to struggle to make friends, it was so much easier when we were children.

I recently read an article on the New York Times, written by A. Williams where he quotes Rebecca G. Adams, a professor of sociology and gerontology at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. Professor Adams mentions “the three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends:

  • proximity
  • repeated, unplanned interactions
  • and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other“.

I think this highlights one of the stronger advantages 7Guests dinners have in order to making friends. The fact that you are meeting new people in a group, small enough to be part of the whole conversation and yet large enough so that you are not under any pressure to commit to anything if you do not wish to. That alone is enough to make people more comfortable and in a position to let their guard down.

The idea of the 7Guests dinner is that although you might be uncomfortable in a situation where you know no-one else, there is comfort in knowing that every one there is exactly in the same boat. You are not being looked at as the strange new person who is trying to make an impression and join the group.

This idea also extends to couples, where it is even more difficult to make friends, when not only must there be a chemistry between two people, but this time all four have to gel together. Meeting together over a 7Guests dinner where you are not under pressure to accept anyone or commit in either direction (to be or not to be friends) towards friendship.